A few years ago, I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life. — Welcome to the club, right?

But there was one thing I did know. I wanted to travel the world. I just didn’t know how. So I dawdled and floated in between several jobs just hoping that one day, the grand solution will hit me. But none came. Then I realized the solution was me. I had to make it happen.

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So one day, I went home and booked myself a one-way ticket to Asia. Five months later, I said goodbye to my coworkers and left. This trip turned out to be the best thing and the worst thing that’s ever happened to me.

It was the best thing because it changed the way I thought about myself and the world. It showed me what I was capable of, which was way more than I thought. But it was also the worst thing because it made me question everything I had. My relationships, my goals, my time, which I realized weren’t aligned with my values.

It led to me leaving someone I cared deeply about, disappointing my parents, and uprooting my life to move across the country alone. It was a very difficult process but necessary for me in order to understand what was really important to me in life.

The time alone made me realized I was done trying to live up to other people’s expectations, so I stopped. I stopped trying to impress people, going to jobs just for titles, and started to live my life the way I really wanted. I started seeking out work that was more meaningful to me, traveling, and writing more.

The reason why you’re reading this is because around the same time, I started hearing a lot of the same complaints and frustrations from my peers. People with amazing dreams who were afraid to pursue them because they were worried about disappointing others or being perceived as reckless or irresponsible.

If that’s you, I understand but I also want you to know  you’re not crazy. I know exactly what it feels like to feel guilty for your dreams. But I’ll have to ask you this: who are you living your life for if it’s not you? And will you regret not going after your dreams in a few years?

If so, then I think you are already on the way to living the free way.